Mothers never cease to amaze
To the editor:
Many years ago, I was chatting with my sister in our backyard. Her sons were playing and there were lots of neighbors joining in. All in all, it was a very active afternoon on a summer day. I noticed my nephew was climbing a tree right behind us. My sister could not have known this as her back was completely turned from her son.
We chatted away amiably when just over my sister’s head I saw my nephew slip. At that exact moment my sister yelled “Matt” and hurried over to catch him if he fell (he didn’t). I marveled at my sister’s quick thinking – how could she have known he slipped? She was in mid-conversation; her back was turned.
She knew because mother’s know these things. I don’t know how but they know. Maybe it’s just intuition but I think it goes deeper than that. A mother’s instincts are powerful; perhaps the most powerful in the animal kingdom: to nourish, protect, love, and care for their young, and sometimes someone else’s young.
They have an uncanny ability to know a child’s needs, and fulfill them. Even before the child knows he has a need, the mother is fulfilling his need. Mother’s know when their child is sick, troubled, hungry, or in danger. A mother, who otherwise may seem rather carefree and footloose, becomes a manager par excellence, an incomparable organizer, and a decisive decision maker where their child is concerned. They don’t even know how they do it. It is their essential nature to do it.
Now, we all know the drawbacks for mothers. They only have two hands, 24 hours, and whatever resources are available. They do try to do it all – and it can be impossible to do it all. Like everyone else, mothers need rest, relaxation, and most of all a break from worrying about their kids. That is why it is so important for kids to make that call, leave that note, send that text, and use their common sense and remember what their moms have told them. Because if they do, their mothers will not have to worry so much.
It is as important to honor mothers as it is to honor fathers. Both are so important, and yet many single parents still do a stellar job of parenting alone.
Most children need some time before they fully realize what their parents did for them growing up. By their thirties, perhaps, but certainly when they have children of their own. The full realization eventually comes to them – and it can be overwhelming. How do you give it all back? You can’t really, but you can pass it on.
– Jim Turner, Fairfield